Loving yourself is critical for personal happiness. When you learn to
know and accept the true you, miracles happen. You feel at peace with
yourself, you're better able to balance the tensions around you, it's
easy to be authentic in relationships, and you stop having regrets for
what you have or haven't done in your life.
So why is it so difficult to love yourself?
For a large part of our lives we develop habits
to protect ourselves, to comply with expectations and to control what
happens to us. If you've received messages from significant others in
your life that you're not 'good enough,' 'smart enough,' or 'attractive
enough,' fear and avoidance become the essence of your life as you try
and survive in what is perceived to be a hostile world. Basically, you
don't love yourself because you don't view yourself as being loveable.
Consider this: If one person on this planet is
loveable, then we're all loveable. Why? Just because we're human. Just
because we live and breathe and (mostly) have good intentions. After
all, you don't have to be perfect to be loveable. Who is? You just have
to be yourself. Maybe smile a little more. Lighten up. Be more
accepting. Let go. Love your heart out. Give.
But even if you don't, you're still the only you
in the universe. You still have a unique purpose and a reason for being
here. Finding out what that is, is a lifelong journey of personal
discovery - and you might as well love yourself on the way.
If you want to change something in your life,
like your perception of yourself, it takes courage to step into the fear
of change and dare to imagine that you are in fact, 'good enough.'
Benjamin Button brings a thought-provoking insight to the notion of how to love yourself towards the end of the movie The Curious Case of Benjamin Button. He says, 'For
what it's worth, it's never too late, or in my case too early, to be
whoever you want to be. There's no time limit... Start whenever you
want.. You can change or stay the same. There are no rules to this
thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best
of it. I hope you see things that stop you. I hope you feel things that
you have never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different
point of view. I hope you live a life that you're proud of and if you
find that you're not, I hope you have the strength to start all over
again.'
'Nuff said!
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